Nov 05 2005
Betrayal
So I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of betrayal of late. A macabre topic, you say? Yeah…so? As a Christian, I can think on such things. I heard in a very good sermon by Ligion Duncan recently that the children of God will let us down and betray us more often than will those of the world. Is this true? To be honest, I don’t think so. I don’t think the children of God will screw up and make you feel bad more often than not. But I do think that we expect it less, so when it does happen, it hurts more. However, insofar as the person whom I feel has betrayed me is a Christian, that is really not the point. What is the point?
The point is that it hurt. I don’t know why this person felt the need to hide things from me. To be honest, there was really no reason for it. And it’s not like they just forgot to tell me. I asked questions specifically about the topic, and this person still hid the truth from me. Furthermore, I told myself when I was talking to this person that there was more to the story than they were telling me. I told myself to shut up and that I knew nothing…but it turns out I DID know. Would I have been angry at the truth? No. Would I have been disappointed at the truth? No. In truth, there is no reason for this person to hide this stuff from me, except that…well, it’s not the first time this person has done this. And this person didn’t just hurt me. You should have seen the look on my wife’s face, gentle reader.
Truth be told, I don’t know how often this person has concealed the “real†story from me. They do it a lot, I suspect. And why continue doing it? Well, I’ve not really confronted them, except for one really major time. For the most part, I get over the hurt I feel, and I treat them as though nothing ever happened. In fact, I don’t really even know how much this person knows that I really know, and I actually suspect this person thinks they’re getting away with it every time. Except every time, it gets a little harder to believe them. I’m sure they would argue that I’m being unreasonable…in fact, I have heard them argue that very thing to someone else I know when this other person didn’t trust them. Seems to be a popular argument: The past doesn’t predict the future. Well, that’s a load of horse crap, and if they’d think for one fleeting moment, they’d realize the ridiculous nature of that argument as well…but I’m not about to argue it with them.
So what do I do? Do I confront them with the fact that I know the truth and that I think they were being rather childish to try and hide it from me yet again? Do I tell them that they really need to grow up and act as though they cared about someone other than themselves and about something other than gratifying their own lusts and stoking their pride in their own intellect? Maybe I SHOULD do that, and if you think I should, go ahead and let me know. However, I’ll probably do what I always do. I’ll shake my head, mutter a prayer to God asking that He will grant them maturity and an earnest desire to read His Word, and then I’ll go back to being the gullible schmoe that they know they can always dump on. Because that’s what I’m here for, apparently, and gosh darn it…I’m good at it.
